Goal setting myths are the things that stand between you and your goals. I am going to help you identify and overcome them so that you can achieve everything you ever wanted.
In How to set S.M.A.R.T goals to win, I explained a process that guarantees you success when you set the right goals.
Here’s what Brian Tracy says:
“Goal setting myths stop many people from achieving what they want.”
According to Brian, the following myths need to be dealt with without delay:
1. I already have goals. People mistake goals for wishes
2. I don’t need to set any I don’t need goals, I just like going with the flow
3. I’m doing fine I don’t need written goals
4. I have them all in my mind
5. I don’t know how to set goals
6. Goals don’t work
7. Life is too unpredictable
Samith Pich says you won’t understand the process of goal setting if you believe in myths, as a result, you won’t reap any benefits. Do you believe in the following myths?
8. It’s not about the goal it’s about the journey.
Would you agree?
Samith says, “It’s all about the final outcome of your goal.”
Well, you can agree and disagree.
During goal setting, the eyes are right on the attainment of your goal. You’re looking at the benefits you would get after achieving your personal goals.
But, goal setting and achievement is somehow dynamic. The obstacles you encounter along the way stretch you and make you think in different ways than initially. New ways of getting towards your goal may emerge. But it’s not necessary to change your goal.
According to Confucius…
“When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.”
9. If you know your “Why”, your “How” will appear.
Having a strong reason why you need to do something will motivate you to get started.
But, you have to invest time and resources learning how you can achieve the things you want.
10. Just set the intention and forget about it.
There’s no way. You gotta get up and do something. No action no gain.
Off course you’ll trip sometimes, but then you gotta get up, dust yourself off and keep going.
11. Think huge.
People in self-development have told me many times to think big too. But, I have never understood what this means.
Every big goal requires some small goals, milestones, objectives and tasks. The small things will get you to the top. As you think you, remember that small things matters too. What’s the takeaway message?
Just like anything else, there are myths surrounding goal setting. Do you have to believe in them? No.
It is a recipe for disaster to believe in something that is not a fact or proven.
Never take hearsay personally and seriously.
Avoid These Problems With Goal Setting Right From The Start
You might have heard someone say goal setting doesn’t work. Have you ever asked why they say so?
It is good to ask next time.
If you don’t, you might lose hope in setting your personal goals to improve your life because someone else’s negativity.
The outcome of the problems I’m talking about below is part of the reason why people might say goal setting doesn’t work.
Like anything else, setting goals has both sides of the coin. Most people prefer to talk about the good side only. Or, the bad side only.
A study on goal setting in organizations revealed powerful and predictable side effects.
This can apply to life goals as well. Most often when we set goals, we fall short of looking into the impact that comes with the outcome of our personal goals.
The authors of Goals Gone Wild identified several side effects associated with goal setting. These are:
• A narrow focus that neglects non-goal areas
• A rise in unethical behaviour
• Distorted risk preferences
• Corrosion of organizational culture
• Reduced intrinsic motivation
These occurred in an organizational setting. But, all these can well apply in real life situations, especially when we set the wrong goals.
Let’s look at an example. Some people can go to the extremes of doing things that are not ethical to achieve the goals they have set.
There could be different reasons to this. For example, a person can choose to do this because of not wanting to be a failure.
The secret to setting goals in an effective way, and to achieve them, relies upon the person you are.
When you set goals, you need to make sure that you’re prepared to avoid the above-mentioned problems.
The purpose of setting life goals is to support the person you are so that you can become the best of yourself. This is important. Because when you don’t achieve the goals you’ve set, you won’t lie about your success. Integrity is key.
It is clear that goal setting technique isn’t a one size fits all. Although it is powerful, it doesn’t not work for everyone. Because of factors several factors, such as the mindset, the resources, the environment, etc.
In simple terms, goal setting has the good, the bad, the ugly and the downright bizarre. So you need to tread the personal goal setting waters with caution.
You can set goals, but be aware of psychological manifestations of not achieving your goals. I will share with you what you need do instead. Keep reading.
Psychologists say that wanting something you don’t have can triggers your nervous system to produce negative emotions.
That’s why you might at times think goal setting doesn’t work. You are not alone.
Here’s what Darren Hardy said about why setting goals might not work:
Wherever you are in life right now is your own doing— good or bad, it’s your fault. Your parents aren’t responsible, the economy isn’t, McDonald’s isn’t; you are.
You are 100 percent responsible for everything—by what you did, what you didn’t do or how you responded to what was done.
According to Darren, you must change in order for everything around you to change and improve. If you want to achieve any goal you set, you need to know who you should become to achieve that goal.
Ray Williams had this to say in the Financial Post article:
The inherent problem with goal setting is related to how the brain works. Recent neuroscience research shows the brain works in a protective way, resistant to change.
According to Ray, the brain seeks rewards and avoid pain or discomfort, including fear. When the thought of failure occurs in our mind, we feel demotivated and we want to go back to our comfort zone.
When you set personal goals, you kinda say you aren’t happy with your present situation. Is like saying, “I’m not perfect and I’ll be when I’ve achieved my goal.”
This often can be counter-effective because it’s as if you don’t accept yourself.
In Ray’s words: If you fail to achieve your goals, you can think you’re:
• A failure
• Not good enough
• Not smart enough
• Not beautiful enough
• Not worthy, etc.
Setting goals is a powerful way of giving yourself direction of where you want to be. It helps you to focus on the most important things that you want to accomplish in life. When yous set goals the proper way, you will dramatically increase your chances of success.
But, don’t set stretch goals that require a drastic change in your behavior and thoughts.
Stretch goals are great because they can take you out of your comfort zone, but they can be problematic. Set goals you can achieve and break your goals into small, manageable tasks that you can easily track. Here’s my favourite tool to help you track your goals with ease and increase your chances of success!
Now that we have gotten the problems with goal setting out of the way, we are ready to roll. It is important to be aware of what might stop you from setting and achieving your goals. The key is to be ready for anything.